The 5 Best Sex Positions for Vibrators | Vibe Together

So you’ve read Getting Over the Hump, Introducing Toys Into Partnered Sex’, you’ve got your favorite bullet in hand and you’re both ready to dive in. Now what? The actual act of using a vibrator during partnered sex can feel a little bit funny and awkward at first, and nothing kills a mood like overthinking something. But there are a few positions that can make using a vibe together much more comfortable and way more enjoyable. Here are some of our favorites! For the sake of comprehension, we’re going to use their super ridiculous, socially recognized names.

Whether your partner has a penis or wears a strap-on, straddling them is one of the easier positions to get into with a vibrator. Reason being that you’re not holding yourself up with your hands, leaving them free to roam. You can either lean forward using the pressure of your body to hold the vibe in place, squeezing it between you or you can sit totally upright and use your hands. You can find vibes that stay put in one spot during penetrative sex, but it’s nice to be able to add stimulation when you want it and vary the amount of pressure you’re enjoying. Pretty much any vibe can be used comfortably in this position, but we love the Yumi for its small size and slightly squishy texture. The EnticeMe is also perfect and can slip easily into the palm of your hand.

The easy access to your own body in reverse cowgirl is essentially the same as cowgirl, but the added bonus is that you now have access to your partner’s body as well. If your partner has a scrotum, you might find that they really enjoy some gentle vibrations as well. Keep the conversation going to make sure they’re enjoying it and that the pressure is right. For this option the Yumi is an amazing choice because of the way it’s worn between the fingers. 

Having your partner behind you frees up the front of your body for slightly larger toys like Sona. This revolutionary toy uses deep (!) sonic pulses to stimulate the clit and, combined with penetrative sex, is a bit of a brain melter. If that sounds like too much, a simple bullet like a Gaia or a compact vibe like the Mini are both perfect options. If your arms get tired, try having your partner hold the toy. Because they can’t see what they’re doing, make sure you tell them when they’ve hit the spot, there’s no reason to grin through the vibe being an inch away from where you actually want it.

Perfect for sleepy Sunday morning sex, this cozy position is ideal with compact toys, as your legs will be slightly more closed. The Mini is a favorite option with its wider base that's easy to grip and a more pointed and direct tip. Either partner can hold the toy in this position but having your partner hold it puts them into a bit of a hug position which ups the cozy level even more.

We made up this position :) But essentially what you want to do is to lay on your back with your knees either bent or extended (whichever is more comfortable), hips slightly raised and have your partner kneel between your legs. Start by using the toy on yourself, while your partner just watches, taking mental notes of what you like. This can really help them to understand how to use a toy on you and to make them feel more confident that they’re doing it ‘right’. Then have them take the reins and be sure to communicate if they’re being too gentle or too aggressive, too fast or too slow. Whether this turns into mutual masturbation, oral+toy (a wild combo!) or one of the positions above, you’re both bound to have a pretty amazing time.

Have a favorite position that we missed? Let us know in the comments :)