Our Fave Toys For Partnered Play
Sex toys are incredible alone but some are equally, if not more fun, used with a partner. We've rounded up our favorites from the shop to give you the low down on how and why you may want to bring them into rotation asap. If you've never used toys with a partner before and aren't sure how to have that conversation, we've got a whole article for that.
Let the fun begin!
This small, simple toy is one of the most versatile toys to have in your bag of tricks. It's small enough to apply sweet vibrations during oral or any positions that leave a little space between you and feels incredible on anyone's parts.
Good Vibes Only: If you're on the giving end of oral, try tilting your head slightly to one side and try placing the Mini between your partner's inner thigh or belly and your cheek (or hold it against your cheek with one hand if that's easier for you). The vibes will resonate through your mouth, offering some pretty amazing sensations for your partner.
Serious wand fans already know just how good they can feel when applied during any kind of penetration BUT finding a position where a bulky wand doesn't get in the way can be an awkward challenge. The Sola Sync is incredible for exactly that use. It's handle is quite long and flat, so that it can fit between you comfortably without having to reach down low. It's head is also made to tilt towards you naturally so you don't need as much space to manipulate it. And as a fun bonus, it's separate controller can be used up to 40 ft away, which can lead to some pretty fun play ;)
Double Your Fun: This might sound tricky, but trust us, it's worth trying. The firm, cool texture of glass is incredible, but mixing it with deep wand rumbles is a whole new ball game. Have a partner use a glass dildo or booty toy on you and then use a wand to massage the surrounding area. Have them inch closer and closer to the glass toy and then rub up against it, sending incredible waves through the glass. This also works well with silicone toys, but the rumbles are slightly less intense. It's also super fun solo.
While Eva is the obvious choice from Dame Products for P-in-V partnered sex. We tend to recommend the Fin just as much (if not more) for its versatility. Fin is a little more inclusive, as it can be enjoyed by any partners. The ergonomic toy is small, easy to hold and feels amazing against the clitoris, nipples, perineum or anywhere else you can think of. It's shape allows it to easily glide around, leaving good vibes in it's path.
Not Over Til It's Over: While most people think of vibrators as toys for vulvas, we've got some news for you. People with penises tend to really enjoy the sensations as well. If your partner has a penis and enjoys their perineum being touched, try this little trick next time they're about to climax. When they're right on the edge, place the Fin, a little firmly, against their perineum and it can stimulate their prostate externally, which can make for one heck of a orgasm!
Whether you're using them along with a harness or manually, dildos aren't only fun solo. If your partner has a penis of their own, a dildo may seem redundant but few are flexible enough to perform oral sex during penetration, a delightful combo!
Dil-do! : Both of these toys are harness compatible but they also have suction bases. Try playing around with a partner while the toy is attached to the shower wall, headboard or full length mirror and it's like having an extra person there.
Don't Let The Name Fool You : Despite their name and intended use, c-rings aren't just for people with penises. A vibrating ring like the Drive can make for a simple and inexpensive finger vibe! Or try applying it to the base of a dildo, to add a little oomph.
Of all the items in the shop, these are the few that are truly meant for 2 (or more) players. Restraint can be incredibly fun for consenting partners but make sure you've gone over safety and boundaries first (read our intro guide here). Cuffies are perfect if you're a little new to the idea of being tied up, as they are possible to remove yourself, if you start to feel uncomfortable. If you and your partner are enthusiastic to take it to the next left level, some Silky Pleasure Rope might be just the ticket.
Hand It Over: While engaging in close up and personal, partnered sex while tied up can be incredible, try extending the game by stepping back and using a toy on a partner while they're cuffed. Watching a partner squirm in ecstasy can be a ton of fun. With their consent, safely restrict your partners hand movement and tease them with their favorite vibe, dildo, rimmer or sleeve.
No matter the size or material you prefer, a plug or rimmer can bring things to a brand new level with a partner. First you need to discuss consent, interest and boundaries but if both parties are game, there can be a lot of fun to be had. We recommend starting with a small rimmer, like the Candy Rimmer if these sensations are new to you and slowly sizing up to a toy like the Firefly Ace II. But if you're already a fan, the njoy Pure Plug, is basically like buying your partner some truly impressive jewellery.
Three's Company: If the fantasy of being in a threesome is enticing to you but you're just not there yet, try using a booty toy, especially a vibrating one, while giving or receiving oral sex and it can really help to stimulate the feelings of that fantasy. Don't forget the lube!
If there was one toy from the shop we would recommend almost universally, it would be the Glass Wand. It can be used any way you can think of, by literally any body. And while it's wonderful for solo play, its beauty and versatility make it a real treat for partnered play.
Play Outside: While it's design would make you think this toy is best suited for penetrative play (and it is incredible for that) don't bypass trying it externally. If you or your partner has a clitoris, try this sequence of moves on for size. Slowly insert the toy so the graduating bubbles can be felt and then remove it and rub it up and down, flat against the clit. Repeat. You're welcome.