Getting Kinky—Solo

 There's no rule that says masturbation has to be 'simple'. Exploring kink when you're alone can be amazing in a multitude of situations. Maybe you're just testing the waters on sensation play and would like to do it alone before including someone else. Maybe you want to explore fantasies but don't want to act them out with another person. Maybe you simply don't have or don't want a partner but like things to be amped up regardless. Whatever the reason, here are some fun ideas and tips for exploring your kinky side—solo. 

Safety First

We do not, repeat, do not, advise you to restrict your airflow in any way when you are solo. If you want to explore choking fantasies on yourself please do your research here on the safer way to apply pressure to the sides of the neck and never on the trachea and do not use anything around your mouth or nose other than your hands or a bit gag that allows for easy airflow and is simply removed. You also do not want to get yourself into any physical positions or situations that you can't easily get out of. It is possible to explore restraints and sensation play without getting yourself into a dangerous situation you can't easily get out of. 

All Tied Up

Ok, so you have the desire to explore restraints but we just told you not to tie yourself into a position you can't get out of. So, now what? Try tying your legs or ankles together with silky rope or tying them to the bedposts but be sure that you have Safety Scissors within very easy reach, incase that knot it trickier than you thought. You can also use Vinyl Bondage Tape on your legs or even as a blindfold (remember to not restrict your breathing at all), which sticks to itself, rather than to you, so it can be unpeeled easily. 

Hurts So Good

Love the feeling of spanking or impact play? There is nothing stopping you from giving your own booty a nice slap (more on spanking safety here). Floggers and paddles are also simple to use on yourself, like the Glass Dildo Cat-O-Nine Tails (which is a really perfect 2-for-1 in this situation) or a Riding Crop with a nice long handle. While you're at it, give your hair a nice tug or run a Pinwheel along your thigh. You're in the driver's seat, so see what feels good! 

  

Get Inspired

A great way to stir your imagination is to get some help from a professional. So hop online to explore photos and videos around specific fantasies (find some great sites here), discover audio porn (some of our favorites are here) or request to purchase custom content from a sex worker!

Pinch Me

One of the simplest ways to incorporate a little extra heat into your solo play is with clips, clamps and rings. These can be used most commonly on nipples. These kinds of accessories are adjustable so you can take it from gentle squeeze to a firm pinch. Yes please!

 

After Care

After care is equally as important when you're solo as it is when you're exploring kink with other people. Give yourself whatever you need to feel calm and safe afterwards. Maybe it's a bath, or watching a silly video or maybe it's nothing at all and you're ready to meet the day! But just like you would with someone else, don't forget to take the time to check in with yourself about any feelings you might be afterwards.