SSRIs and Your Sex Life

SSRIs and Your Sex Life

If you take SSRIs for anxiety or depression, then you know they can come with some (literally) undesirable side effects. Unfortunately, one of the most common ones is a decrease in sexual desire, and sometimes even sensation. The problem is not that your body isn’t able to get aroused—it still is!—but mentally, you’re not making that connection.

SSRIs, or selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, are a common class of meds used to treat anxiety and depressive disorders. Prozac, Zoloft, Lexapro, Celexa—you’ve probably heard of these before. SSRIs help to increase the amount of serotonin in your brain, which regulates mood, but too much of this particular neurotransmitter can inhibit libido, and possibly make it harder to reach orgasm. Some doctors think that the more serotonin your brain makes, the less dopamine—that's another neurotransmitter, and it helps you get turned on.

Around forty percent of people report sexual side effects, and mostly describe them as bothersome, but manageable. Due mostly to differences in metabolism, some people may experience more difficult sexual side effects, while others remain unaffected. It’s common to experience a dip in libido when you first start taking an SSRI, and then feel 'normal' again after a few months.

Side effects can be different depending on your body and hormones, too. For those with penises, it’s not that common to have erectile dysfunction, but lots of people report a delay in orgasm. (With some meds in particular, there can even be a drop in sperm count!) Vulva owners may find themselves drier than usual, which contributes to reduced sensation.

If you're finding yourself in this position, here are some steps you can take to turn yourself back on...

 

Give it some time.

Remember, depression and anxiety themselves can have an inhibiting effect on your libido, so if you’ve just started a medication, try and give your body the time it needs to get used to it. The medication might not be the only thing affecting your sex drive. If you’ve been on the same dose or prescription for a while, let your doctor know about the side effects you’re experiencing, and ask if you can try something else.

 

Take good care of yourself.

Eating and sleeping as regularly as possible is key, and even light exercise can help your brain naturally produce more dopamine. Warm baths with a nice soak and some incense can help you get in a more relaxed, potentially sexual state—try masturbating lightly in the tub without thinking too much about having an orgasm. Just focus on the sensation, and take your time.

 

Watch some porn.

If you’re having a hard time getting in the mood, a little visual stimulation could be just what the doctor ordered. Even if you feel less than interested at first, try to focus, let your body respond naturally and see how that feels. You might find that your libido was right there, waiting for you to engage.

 

Talk about it.

If you’re in a relationship, or even a casual hook-up, let your partner know that you’re having a little trouble. Lots of people are on SSRIs and understand what it’s like, and even if not, can be patient and understanding with the right information. More foreplay is not necessarily a bad thing, and if there’s something in particular you like, ask.

If you feel comfortable talking about this with friends or a therapist, you might be surprised by how common an experience it is, and how much better it can feel to just get it off your chest.

 

Get a new toy.

There’s nothing like a new toy to get you in the mood, and a different kind of sensation could be the wake-up call your mind and body needs. A new or bigger dildo, a more powerful vibrator or a textured anal toy are all great places to start—so treat yourself! And remember to lube, lube, lube.

 

Don’t quit cold turkey.

Doctors recommend that you stop taking an SSRI gradually, lowering the dose until it’s safe to stop. These are pretty serious meds, and if you stop taking them all of a sudden, it can lead to really unpleasant, withdrawal-like symptoms that will make a lack of sex drive look like a walk in the park.

Only take medication your doc prescribes, and let them help you to manage your dosage. Even if it’s a little embarrassing, it’s in your best interest here to be honest about your side effects. Your doctor is here to help you out.

 

It can definitely be tough to feel that while your depression or anxiety is improving, your sex life is on the back burner. But your mental health is really important, and hopefully, with some more time, attention and advice from your doctor, you’ll be feeling like yourself again!

 

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