How To Ride | Tips & Tricks

Embarking on a journey to explore new sexual positions and experiences can be both exhilarating and intimidating. For many, the thought of riding or being on top with a sexual partner can evoke feelings of nervousness and self-doubt. However, it's important to remember that sexual exploration is a natural and exciting part of intimacy.

In this friendly guide, we'll explore how to approach riding or being on top with confidence and ease;

Embrace Your Confidence

First and foremost, remember that confidence is key. Your partner wants to see you enjoying yourself and feeling confident in your own skin. Embrace your body and your desires.

Start Slow

Begin with gentle rocking movements and gradually increase intensity as you become more comfortable. If you're unsure of how to move, we love the classic tip of spelling the word 'coconut' with your hips mixed with lifting your hips up and down.  But don't overthink it! Take your time and focus on what feels good for you and your partner.

Experiment with Different Positions

There are countless variations of riding or being on top, so don't be afraid to experiment and find what works best for you and your partner. Try different angles, speeds, and movements to discover what feels most pleasurable.

Riding tummy to tummy will offer more rubbing and grinding feelings externally for you. Whereas straddling them flat footed (like leap frog!) or kneeling over them will allow you bop up and down with more strength in your legs. This position can been done facing them (cowgirl) or facing the foot of the bed (reverse cowgirl). If you find yourself having a hard time keeping balance, have your partner hold your hands or waist, or we even have a strap that can help you steady yourself. 

There are endless variations to these basic positions; you can have them sit up, you can lean all the way back, you can have them seated in a chair. Start simply and expand from here. 

Focus on Pleasure

Instead of worrying about how you look or whether you're doing everything "right," focus on the pleasure you're experiencing. Pay attention to your partner's reactions and let go of any self-conscious thoughts. Sex is about mutual enjoyment and pleasure, not performance.

Use Accessories

Consider incorporating accessories into your play. This could be anything from pillows for support to blindfolds for added sensory excitement. This can also be a great time to add a vibrator to the mix. For laying down/grinding positions, try a flat, low profile toy like the Iroha Kushi or Romp Wave and for more upright positions, you can use any of your favorites (we love a Yumi so you easily use your hand at the same time.)


Remember, It's Okay to Laugh

Sex doesn't always have to be serious. It's okay to laugh, make jokes, and enjoy the playful side of intimacy. Laughter can help relieve tension and make the experience more enjoyable for both you and your partner. YeeHaw! 


Be Patient with Yourself

Finally, be patient with yourself. Learning to ride or be on top takes practice, balance and a little strength, and it's normal to feel a little awkward or clumsy at first. Give yourself permission to make mistakes and learn from them. With time and experience, you'll become more confident and skilled in the bedroom.


Above all, remember that sex is a journey of exploration and discovery. Embrace the experience with an open mind and a willingness to learn, and you'll find that riding or being on top can be incredibly empowering and pleasurable.