When it comes to sex, wetter is definitely better. Without lubrication, masturbation and sex can be pretty uncomfortable affairs. While a little friction can be pleasurable, we all know too much can be painful, and sex is supposed to feel good!
If you have a vagina and don’t produce enough natural lubrication, or you prefer things to be a little more slippery, there’s absolutely no shame in using lube. Even if you’re really turned on, it can take your body a while to catch up with your mind, the time in your cycle and medications like birth control and antidepressants can all have an effect on your ability to self-lubricate. All totally normal!
If you’re not sure what kind to use, we’ve got you covered. Whether it’s for massage, masturbation, vaginal or anal sex, we can help you find the right lube for the job.
The most universally popular option, water-based lube is safe to use on skin, in the vagina and anus, on latex condoms, and all kinds of toys—basically anywhere! We love, love, love Sliquid—it’s paraben and glycerin-free, and made with aloe so it’s extra moisturizing.
Fair warning, water-based lubes tend to dry quickly, so you may need to reapply. They can also increase the risk of yeast infection in some people, so it’s a good idea to shower after use.
If you have sensitive skin, natural oil-based lubes are a great option, because they tend to be less irritating. Organic, unadulterated coconut oil is naturally antibacterial, odorless, edible, and absorbs well into the skin but we like bottled products that have been properly tested for genital use—our favorite is the Sex Oil by Province Apothecary, made with organic and wildcrafted ingredients.
Just so you know, there are a few caveats with oils: they can’t be used with latex condoms (though nitrile and polyurethane are OK), or with porous toys and they aren't recommended if you're trying to conceive, as they can slow things down—but they are not, we repeat not (!) a contraceptive.
One more thing—if you have a vagina, stay away from synthetic oils like petroleum jelly. Because synthetic oils are difficult to absorb and wash off, they can cause bacterial overgrowth and infection.
Silicone-based lube is silkier and longer-lasting than most other kinds—one squirt can last a marathon session—and it’s safe to use on latex condoms and non-porous toys, like glass or stainless steel. Silicone is also hypoallergenic, waterproof, odorless and tasteless. We recommend the super-popular Uberlube, which does triple duty as a lube, a massage oil and even an anti-frizz serum for your hair!
Because nothing is perfect, silicone lubes are not recommended for use with silicone or ‘real feel’ toys, as they can degrade the material over time. It also needs to be washed off with soap and water after use.
Everyone’s body is different, so before using any lube, make sure to check out the ingredients, and do a patch test on a bit of non-genital skin, like your arm or thigh. As always, pay attention to your body, and have a good time!